November 29, 2017
Subject: Help! My Supervisor is Way Younger than I am, how do I manage?
Hello Nurse Consultant,
I recently went through a change of career and picked nursing as my new career. I am of an older generation and in my former life, I was in a management position until a major change.
I recently graduated nursing school and got employed to a Medical Surgical floor. My supervisor on this floor is as young as my eldest child. She is amazing at what she does but I feel a tad resentful taking instructions from her. I recognize that being resentful is unhealthy and not warranted but still cannot help feeling as I do.
Any suggestions to help me get through this hump?
First thing I would say is well done on recognizing that what you feel is unhealthy. You also acknowledged that your supervisor is excellent at what she does, which is another good thing.
Seeing as you were in your past life, one can understand why you may feel the way that you do. But you must understand that it is no one fault most especially your supervisor’s. She earned her position.
The world has changed and you must change with it or become extinct. Try a different approach- get to know your supervisor and you will find that there is respect. I won’t encourage you suppressing those resentful feeling but rather to bring it to the fore and deal with it.
Here is a practical exercise for you, get out a pen and write down what you feel and why you feel that way. Don’t over think it and at the exercise, you will find that your resentments are misguided.
Good luck in your new career and job. You will excel!
November 17, 2017
How financially frugal are you? Making plans for retirement should include prudent ways of saving. Nursing is a good profession to make a living and still save. Vacations are great and very necessary but you also have to remember to save for your retirement. Here are some ways to consider
1. Create a Different Account- With this account, what happens is that you schedule a certain amount to be taken out of your salary or pay every pay period. It is best to be automatic, so that way you don’t think about it and it comes out of your account anyway. This savings has a way of adding up.
2. Be Mindful of Your spending (expenses)- if you don’t need it, don’t buy it. And always keep receipts for when you do buy it and get back home and find that you didn’t really want it at all.
3. Cut down Costs- Having stuff that you don’t need is simply having money go down the drain. Example, if you only watch cable like twice to thrice weekly, then it does not make sense to keep paying that cable bill. Get rid of it!
4. Buy Quality- Insanity is trying something and expecting different results. Likewise, if you are going to buy a product that you know would last a long time, be sure to invest in a quality product. It would be senseless to buy an inferior product, watch it break and then go back and re-buy a different product. That is twice the money that you could have spent differently.
Dave Ramsey is a popular author who has some great tips for achieving financial frugal. Take a peek at his site here: https://www.daveramsey.com
November 3, 2017
Resigning right is a good soft skill to know as it can come in handy when you need it most. We have all been there, you accepted a job that you thought was going to be a great fit, only to get into the job and realize that you had made a huge mistake. You don’t want to live a life of having to wake up every single day dreading to go to work, so how do you extricate yourself from that situation without burning bridges.
- Proper Resignation- Follow your company’s resignation notice guideline in resigning right. Unless specifically told and in writing not to do so, be sure to work out your full notice and give your 100 percent best as you work out that notice.
- Maintain Relationships- Just because you are leaving does not mean that you should burn your relationships, especially the good ones that you have had, so do your best to leave whilst still being on good terms with your co-workers
- Don’t Bad-Talk- It is a small world, so unless you know that you will NEVER run into anyone from your previous employment, it is best not to bad talk your previous place. If an exit interview is needed, by all means do give one but be diplomatic about it all.
- Have Everything in Writing: There are excellent companies to work for out there, likewise there are companies who are unscrupulous, so be sure to get whatever agreements that you have in writing.
- Clear your Desk- Don’t wait till your last day to clear your desk. Clear it out slowly, and this means your e-mail account, voice messages etc. Whatever you do not want another person to have (and it does not interfere with normal company functioning) then be sure to clear it out
And remember, don’t ever feel guilty for resigning. You alone know your life’s journey, so do what you have to do to make that journey better. Just be sure to do it right.
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October 30, 2017
Dare to do it, in spite of your fear is a phrase that should resonate with us all.We all feel fear-it is a natural human response. What is different amongst us is how we choose to respond to that fear. Some people become paralyzed with the fear and thus remain in the same position, others become motivated by their fears and choose to push forward through those fears. So our responses really is what differentiates us from staying or moving forward.
Starting as a new graduate in nursing (even if you had previously been in a different field) can be daunting, but you need to stop and remind yourself of why you chose to go into nursing in the first place. You do not need to justify your reasons with anyone- they are yours and yours alone and yes, nursing is a profession.
Find a group of like minded people who can motivate you on those low days, while still remembering that you ultimately are responsible for your outcome. Stop giving away your power to fear. The first time you do something that scares you, you feel afraid but also immense power because you realize that you have been holding yourself captive in a place where you have all the power.
Fear can be one of two thing, if you allow it. It could be a powerful motivator or a detractor- the choice lies with you. Is there something at the back of your mind that you have constantly thought of doing but continue to keep buried for reasons that you keep making up. If the reasons are not valid, realize that those thoughts are powerful and are holding you back and choose to take action in spite of your fear.
I once had a situation of where I needed to make a presentation in front of a large class. For several days to this event, I fretted about the presentation and constantly worked on my presentations. My thought process was maybe if I had all my ducks in a row then I would be more confident, which helped some but not a whole lot. What helped was me realizing that it all depended on me. Was I going to let the fear of whatever it was hold me back or would I choose to swallow my fear, be brave and make that presentation. I chose the latter and it was the beginning of a great many presentations. I still have the voice shakes, every now and then, but I also came out on top because in the defining moment, I realized that I was very capable.
And so are you! Regardless of whatever negative self talks you may have given yourself, you are stronger than you know, so before you decide to walk away from that project or give it all up, try just one more time and this time, do it in spite of your fear.
October 23, 2017
A Positive work culture is one which is full of trust and creates a warm atmosphere for everyone to grow. A positive culture is NOT entirely dependent on employers alone; employees also have a stake in creating a positive work culture where your team mates want to work as well and grow.
Four Tips on Creating a Positive Work Culture
- Be welcoming- As an employee, go proactive. Reach out and welcome new employees to the fold. You don’t have to become best buddies, but you can help make the transition into a new work place easier for the new person
- Keep Gossip to a Minimum: Gossip will always happen, so saying no to it completely is not a sensible thing. As much as possible, keep away from hurtful gossip, if you must gossip, find something to say that will be encouraging to another and not ill gossip.
- Build Each Other Up: A good way to quickly create a positive work culture is to learn how to become a builder of your co-worker. Find ways to build on your co-worker’s strengths. Everyone has their strength of which they are good at and all it take is for someone to find it. so why not be that person and find that strength to build up your co-worker.
- Smile: A little smile goes a long way and costs nothing. You may not always be in the very best frame of mind and that it totally okay but remember that a smile is contagious and everyone feels drawn to a person who smiles and feels happy. Be one of those and make your work place, a positive one.